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The Adult, child and the parent

Its late night when I sit down to blog today…I guess its time I wrote something about transactional analysis. I learnt transactional analysis when I was completing my education…I had further insights into TA during my stint at various organizations through their induction and training sessions..

Transactional analysis treats every interaction between two or more persons as a transaction. An exchange of words, feelings, reactions which they exhibit constitute of the transaction’s elements. Every interaction between them is analysed on the basis of concepts of transactional analysis.

Let us take a look at these concepts:

1) Adult (neopsychic)

The adult ego can be simply put as our assertive true self which if were to indulge in would result in calculated, well-thought out, analysed and perfect transactions. That is, this refers to interactions which would be in a way in which a mature person would behave in. No tantrums, no bossy nature, just clear facts and statements

2)Parent (exteropsychic)

The Parent ego is the state which our personality takes when we are to take care of someone, when we love someone (in some cases, this would also move into the other states, still). Simply put, the way a parent would behave with a child.

3)Child(archaeopsychic)

The child ego must now be self explanatory. It is characterized by tantrums, demands, naughty behaviour, scheming, creativeness etc.

Let us understand the concept with a simple example in here.

If I ask you:

Kindly get me a cup of coffee (neutral expression, maybe a small smile –> adult ego)

Come on dear, please get me a cup of coffee (caring attitude, smiling –> parent ego)

I want a coffee now, get me one (indignant –> child ego)

The above example is merely indicative and I merely use to further clarify the concepts. Since, the same sentences would be take on another ego all together, if they were stated with a different mood. So thats about the basics of TA.

Now how do u go about using TA. First by understanding that when there is no match in transaction, conflict arises. Person A takes child ego –> Person B takes parent ego or vice versa; Person A takes adult ego –> person B also takes adult ego. These are the only combinations which would avoid confrontations, conflicts and mismatch. If I were to ask you

  • I want a coffee now, get me one (indignant –> child ego) (ok dear I will get one –> parent ego)
  • Kindly get me a cup of coffee (neutral expression, maybe a small smile –> adult ego) * (sure, I will get you one –> adult ego)

The above statements merely mean that in real life, we need to counter these transactions with corresponding transactions.

  • I want a coffee now, get me one (indignant –> child ego) (kindly get one yourself –> adult ego) Conflict ensues
  • Kindly get me a cup of coffee (neutral expression, maybe a small smile –> adult ego) (yay…I will get you one…—> child ego) mismatch

Even within these ego states there are subdivisions. For eg. the adult ego would consist of nurturing and the criticizing. But more on that another day…

2008
04/14
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Cyberpsychology

When I going through other blogs at random, I realised that people often put up a slice of their personal life on their blogs. I came across, family albums, messages to near and dear ones…love letters and so on…These were all available on the internet for the whole world to see and hear. I realized that it is the human mind’s need to shout out loud to the wide open world that would have initialized such an urge.
My blog would of course tell you a great many things about the kind of person I am, maybe even more than my facebook or orkut profile would tell you…I would not have discussed these with even my closest of friends…which could be true with many others…You might go out for a movie with a friend, share a lot of secrets, discuss things…still you would put lots of stuff online which you would’ve in fact not discussed with anyone….I didn’t even think about this post 3 minutes ago. But now that I have thought of it, I have decided to work on this.
Which brings us to the core idea behind this post. I haven’t worked so much on this topic so it’ll be sometime before this blog gets completed. For now, all I have is this
The wikipedia article
Its not very helpful, since wikipedia still has only a stub regarding the topic. I did my research on the web and came across this great blog on the subject. I also learnt that the phenomenon I was trying to express in the earlier paragraph of this post is known as the disinhibition effect.
Go here for more: Psycyber’s blog
While on the topic of cyber psychology; I did come across this neat little article titled blogging may have psychological benefits. The article is definitely worth a read (all the more so, if you are blogger yourself)

2008
03/05
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How to make nonsensical statements

“Life is such an empty piece of facts and happenings when there is no care and love involved“
- (insert some great name here, but the statement is mine which isn’t too bad for a starter)
Now thats quite a revolutionary and bold statement. A statement much ahead of its times. An empty piece refers to the aspect that there it is not quite the complete picture and that there could be more to it than actually meets the eye (i.e. this statement)
The words “facts and happenings” provide a sense of boredom to the statement at same time serve the purpose of stressing on the issue that life could be viewed as a statement of truth and significant events during a specific timeline (which as we observed earlier, is only a portion of the entire aspect which does not meet the eye).
The words “happenings” also enables the reader to understand that each event of life in itself does not render completeness and it requires a multitude of situations and circumstances which would make it even remotely capable of being qualified to be called a slice of life.
The last leg of the journey which the statement seeks to lead us constitutes of enlighten us of the effects of the absence of the emotive aspects of care and love involved. We cannot even attempt to fathom the impacts on life when such aspects of life are lost since we are very much used to taking these for granted. The word care not only appears in the statement to compliment the component of love but also to enable the person to truly appreciate that love should be expressed in the words of care.
Now that you have read the nonsense about a statement which I wrote. I really think everyone can appreciate how I have tried to bring out the essence in which management books, great orators, boring teachers and others attempt to fool the masses. They merely beat around the bush with a single statement and helps them out since they are not at all required to tax their intelligence for actually radical statements for which otherwise they may have to answer for. The inspiration for this is purely attributable to the various abstract management concepts, presentations and speakers I’ve heard over the years.
Coming back to the where we left off yesterday, its not really that I have changed or anything around has changed; Just got myself an “attitude transplant” as calvin would say…And somehow my mind hasn’t rejected it yet…I do not know when that would happen, but anyway let me enjoy it when it lasts. I have got a team building session tomorrow and nothing much happened today…
2008
02/01
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